Thursday, June 10, 2010

The thing about peeing

A year ago, before even leaving Philadelphia, a Peace Corps representatives’ words of wisdom included things like being flexible, adaptable, and understanding. And then there was the phrase, which made us giggle like five year olds—you will become very comfortable quickly with discussing bowel movements. 

Then there was the moment two weeks into training, where we are trained in MIF kits--how to poop into a cup, so Peace Corps doctors can determine what fun amoebas or parasites we have contracted. This uncomfortable explanation was made infinitely more uncomfortable by a six-foot Beninese man explaining the process while having a shit-eating grin on his face the entire time, as if he himself were going to burst into laughter at any moment. 

But of course there is nothing like the first time in every Peace Corps volunteers service when they have to do the inevitable--actually make a MIF kit. Needless to say all of us are quite comfortable in discussing our bowel movements as predicted. But this is not what I want to talk about, what I want to talk about is how comfortable everyone in Benin is with not necessarily defecating in public, but urinating.

One of my most common complaints is how the Beninese pride themselves on appearance, even if they are poor, they always want to put their best forward, but they have no qualms with peeing and in some cases pooping freely out in the open, and in some cases in the field outside my Maman's house or right next to my house. I can't say that many days have gone by where I have not seen at the very least one man in the standard stand-up peeing stance. I repeat, the standard stand-up peeing stance. 


It has come to my recent attention some new peeing stances for men, which perhaps I was purely just ignorant of before, because I am a woman and never felt compelled to ask. 


I am sitting on my porch outside my house on market day, which I loath for the pure fact that it is urination and defecation central, as people refuse to pay the 25 FCFA to use the latrines conveniently located within the market. I am working on grading some papers, when I turn to my right and see a man approaching the neighboring concessions bathing area. 

The bathing area is basically four cement walls not even high enough to hide from the waist up--needless to say this bathing area is used primarily by men--and a door opening. There is a hole in one of the corners inside the bathing areas, where the water drains from, and did I mention this bathing area is near one of the entrances to the market that is crowded with vendors and people coming and going. 

So the man approaches the wall furthest from the market, which is backed by a corn field, which hasn't been planted yet. I know what is about to go down, but then I see the man go into a catcher's squat position, and proceed to pee in this manner. I think to myself, perhaps he is trying not to draw attention to himself, but think it has failed, because how weird is it that he is squatting to pee?


Again, I assumed perhaps this pee stance was something I was unfamiliar with because I am a woman, but then, not even a week later, I am taking a bus down to Cotonou, and we have made one of our typical bathroom stops in front of an open field. I look out the window and see a man making to do the same peeing squat position, but no, he takes a knee. You know, like you take for t-ball photos, or like when a person gets injured on the baseball field? But it doesn't end there, he takes a knee, and then kicks out is left leg as if he is stretching his groin after running a marathon. He then proceeds to pee. 


I am baffled, and yes I know, this all probably sounds weird that I am witnessing and watching these things, but the thing is it was better than what was going on to the left of him--a big Maman, who gave up on being discrete and just let her huge butt come out of hiding from behind her skirt as she'd peed, and then gracefully returned to the bus.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

How I Finally Learned English Grammar

In Elementary school I am sure I was taught the basics. What is the subject? What is the verb? Define a noun. I know in my first English course in college we learned about passive voice, articles, dangling modifiers. I was an English major. I have sat with editors telling me to use the present tense, avoid the past tense and present perfect. Don’t use passive voice. Take out all the extra articles. As a substitute it was mandatory I review parts of speech, enough said. Even with all this, it is only now that I am truly learning English Grammar.

Today I swore I heard brains exploding in my 4eme class, which is a class I picked up during the second semester here, because we were desperately short of English professors. I am not saying these students aren’t smart, but it is clear there have been many gaps in their learning of the English language. I once heard during a graduation ceremony speech that knowledge is what you remember after you have learned everything. I know these students have learned all the words written in the books here, but they haven’t remembered it; whether it is because they are lazy, illiterate, or their teachers didn’t explain it well, well there’s no way to know. Not that I can blame these poor kids, I mean I am just now learning the true meaning of English grammar and that is this: it would be very good friends with Jacques Derrida, more or less father of deconstruction, the theory which boils down to everything means nothing, more or less. So here I am faced with Derrida’s BFF, a native English speaker (myself), and 70 some Beninese students who speak French and Biali, with a smattering of other languages, teaching passive voice.

I didn’t even want to teach this lesson, because as far as I am concerned every English professor I had in college if they were in graves would be rolling over. “Don’t use passive voice,” they said. “Be direct, use active voice,” editors mumbled. Of course as you might imagine from my first paragraph I nodded politely at these comments, made a mental note, and I would read my work searching for passive voice, not knowing exactly what I was even looking for. Anyone who knows me knows I can’t hide confusion, so basically for those who know me, imagine me with that face staring at sentences trying to discern active voice from passive voice. This is probably why when I looked around from the board at my students faces, we both just looked at each other like this was the most ridiculous thing they have ever seen.

Learning passive voice requires one to know how to find a subject, a verb, and objects, but also knowing the difference between subject pronouns and object pronouns. Also you need to be able to identify tenses—present, present continuous, past, present perfect, future—and know the past participle for verbs, which for most is its verb base with ‘ed’, but of course there are all those irregular verbs, whose past tense is different than their past participle. After all this don’t forget all the conjugations for the verb “to be.” Did your brain just explode? Welcome to 4eme and to how I finally am learning English Grammar.
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